Eye contact is the first thing that people look for when they meet. Good eye contact will give them a feeling of comfort and genuine warmth in your company and shows interest in what people have to say. They each give valuable clues to others, as to whether the words we say are consistent with what we are really feeling. The effective use of body language plays a key role for successful small talk.
Getting your posture right will make you feel more confident.
When you want to feel confident and self-assured, keep your head level both horizontally and vertically. In the listening mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or the other.
Your arms give clues to how open and receptive you are to everyone you meet and interact with. Keep your arms out to the side of your body or behind your back. This shows you are not scared to take on whatever comes your way.
Our hand gestures are numerous. Palms slightly up and outward is seen as open and friendly.
The distance we place between ourselves and others is crucial if we want to give off the right signals. Stand too close and you will be marked as “pushy” or “in your face”. Stand too far away and you will be “keeping your distance” or “stand-offish”. Observe and find the right balance!
Yes! Your ears play a vital role in the communication with others, even though in general terms most people can’t move them much, if at all. If you listen twice as much as you talk, you come across as a good communicator.
Our mouth movements can give away all sorts of clues about us. We purse our lips and sometimes twist them to the side when we are thinking.